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Dear parents and caregivers, educators and profess

Dear parents and caregivers, educators and professionals who work with kids:

In a world where only a small percentage of children disclose that they've experienced child sexual abuse, what are the things that help a child disclose?

Rosalyn McElvaney, a clinical psychologist, published her findings on this question in 2020.

Things that help kids disclose include:

-Being asked if anyone is harming them, making them feel unsafe, etc.
-Expecting they'll be believed when they tell.
-Wanting the abuse to be stopped.
-Struggling with the emotional weight of the abuse.
-Realizing the (sexual) behavior is not appropriate.
-Having a safe adult they can tell.

I disclosed at 15, after years of sexual abuse.
What took me so long?
The first and last things on McElvaney's list were NOT in place.
Why did I eventually tell?
Because of all the reasons in between.

This list shows the importance of conversations with kids on the topic of body safety.
-Those conversations can come from caring adults or schools.
-Churches and youth-serving organizations too.
-A parent reading a book on body safety to their children then having a conversation.

Thank you, Dr. McElvaney and team. I am very grateful for your work and this study.

#childsafety #bodysafetyeducation #childsafetymatters #stopchildabuse #parentingtweensandteens #keepkidssafe #parentingtipsandtricks

Hi, friend: Are you a survivor of sibling sexual

Hi, friend:

Are you a survivor of sibling sexual trauma or abuse?
Or do you love someone who is?
Perhaps you work with kids who have experienced SST or SSA.
Maybe you’re an educator.
Or did you read one or more of the memoirs shown above and you have questions? So many questions.

Wherever you are with regard to SST/SSA, if you want to know more on the topic, please consider joining four dynamic women with lived experience in this area for a virtual discussion hosted by @blueboragetraining.

-@jane_epstein_author--"I Feel Real Guilty"
-@mariasocolofauthor--"The Invisible Key"
-@resolvebyaliceperle--"Resolve"
-@writingdianet--"Everyone Was Silent:A memoir"

This powerful event will happen on Tuesday, January 14, 2025, at 7 pm EST.
FYI: REGISTRATION WILL CLOSE 12 HOURS PRIOR TO THE EVENT.
Reserve your spot with the top link in my LinkTree (in my bio).

Can't wait to see you!

#siblingsexualabuse #siblingsexualtrauma #siblingsexualabusesurvivor #siblingstoo #siblingabuseawareness #believesurvivors #supportsurvivors

This feels like a risk to me. Posting about this

This feels like a risk to me.
Posting about this big--to me, at least--concept.

I'd heard about this idea before.
More than once, actually.
Where a victim of sexual abuse or assault experiences arousal.
Not because they liked the sexual violence that happened to them,
But because their body did what it was made to do.
It reacted in a certain way.

I heard the official term for this phenomenon--"Arousal Non-Concordance"--on @NicoleBromley's podcast when she interviewed @sheilagregoire, author of the book, "She Deserves Better: Raising Girls to Resist Toxic Teachings on Sex, Self & Speaking Up."

I think it's an important concept for survivors and the people who love them to know about.
What about you, have you heard this term before?

#supportsurvivors #believesurvivors #healingjourney #healingtrauma #survivorlife

Are you a survivor of sibling sexual trauma or abu

Are you a survivor of sibling sexual trauma or abuse?
Or do you love someone who is?
Perhaps you work with kids who have experienced SST or SSA.
Maybe you’re an educator.
And some people may be thinking, “What fresh hell is this?”😳

Wherever you are with regard to SST/SSA, if you want to know more on the topic, please consider joining four dynamic women with lived experience in this area for a virtual discussion hosted by @blueboragetraining.

-@Jane_Epstein_Author...”I Feel Real Guilty”
-@mariasokolofauthor...”The Invisible Key”
-@resolvebyaliceperle...”Resolve”
-@writingdianet...”Everyone Was Silent: A memoir”

This powerful event will happen on Tuesday, January 14, 2025, at 7 pm EST.
The link to “Reserve a Spot” for the event is in my LinkTree, in my bio.
Yes, it will cause you to “leave Instagram” for a moment, but trust me, sweet friend, you will survive.🙂

#livedexperience #believesurvivors #supportsurvivors #survivorcommunity #siblingabuseawareness #siblingabuse #siblingsexualabusesurvivor #siblingsexualabuse #siblingsexualtrauma

Are you a parent or teacher, grandparent or someon

Are you a parent or teacher, grandparent or someone who works with kids, a favorite aunt or uncle?
If you said YES, this info is for you!

Over on my website--dianetarantini.com--my blog post, "Child grooming by sexual predators|What you need to know" is a very popular post.

Don't have time to read a blog post?
Click through this carousel summary of the info to learn all the signs to look for to keep the kids you love safe from harm.

And if you know people who could benefit from this info, please send them a link!🙂

#childsafety #keepkidssafe #protectkids #redflags #parentingtips #recognizeabuse #childsexualabuseprevention #childsexualabuseawareness #stopchildabuse

Do you want to know more about sibling sexual trau

Do you want to know more about sibling sexual trauma and abuse?
Because it affects 1 in 25 kids?

Tune into this dynamic event on Tuesday, January 14, at 7 pm EST.

FOUR survivors of SST/SSA who have all written memoirs on the topic, will be on this panel:

-@jane_epstein_author--"I Feel Real Guilty"
-@mariasocolofauthor--"The Invisible Key"
-@resolvebyaliceperle--"Resolve"
-Diane Tarantini--"Everyone Was Silent:A memoir"

Together with our attendees we will be chatting about the issue of SST/SSA and taking questions from the audience.
If you have a question you want us to answer, DM it to me now! Link to "reserve your spot" is in my LinkTree in the bio up above.

#siblingsexualabuse #siblingsexualtrauma #siblingsexualabusesurvivor #siblingstoo #siblingabuseawareness #believesurvivors #supportsurvivors

Diane Tarantini

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