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Front cover of the book "Everyone Was Silent," a memoir about sibling sexual abuse

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"Everyone Was Silent: A memoir," which is about my experience with sibling sexual trauma and abuse (SSTA).
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#childsafetymatters #parentingtips #parentchildrelationship #siblingsexualabuseawareness

Are you a parent, grandparent, favorite aunt or un

Are you a parent, grandparent, favorite aunt or uncle?
If so, do you worry about the safety of the kids you love?
Me too!

As such, it’s important to know that at least 30% of child sexual abuse
Is caused by family members.
This is known as Intrafamilial Child Sexual Abuse (IFCSA).
Some people call it “incest.”

Part of the prevalence of incest is because relatives have easy access to kids.
Another reason is because parents often trust family implicitly.

One thing you can do to keep your child safe
Around family members is...
SUPERVISE the kids at all times.
According to @D2L, 70% of CSA incidents happen
When a child is alone with one other person.

That person can be an adult: grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc..
Or it can be another kid:
Which is known as child-on-child-sexual-abuse (COCSA).
It can even be a brother or sister
Which is known as sibling sexual trauma and abuse (SSTA).
Or like I mentioned, sexual abuse often is initiated by cousins.

For more information about intrafamilial child sexual abuse,
Follow @iaalliance and check out their website.
For more information about sibling sexual trauma and abuse,
Follow @5wavesorg.
For more statistics about child sexual abuse and how to prevent it,
Follow @D2L.

Note: To read more about my personal CSA journey, pick up “Everyone Was Silent: A memoir,” available on Amazon.

#childsafetymatters #familymatters #preventsexualabuse #survivorvoices #siblingsexualabuseawareness

Parenting through Sibling Sexual Abuse Has to be o

Parenting through Sibling Sexual Abuse
Has to be one of the hardest things ever.

When I read this blog post of Brandy's last month,
I immediately messaged her and to ask
If I could run the post on my website's blog.

This blog post is such an honest glimpse
Into what a family experiences post disclosure of Sibling Sexual Trauma and Abuse.

I remember wanting my parents to pick me over the brother who harmed me.
Forever.
But in time, once I became a parent,
I understood how very hard that situation would be,
To choose one child over another,
Especially if grandkids are involved.

Thank you, Brandy, for letting me share your words.
If people stumble upon my website as a resource for SSTA,
I want them to find some information on parenting through SSTA.
And of course, I want them to find links to 5waves,
The organization you helped found.
I believe 5WAVES is the best resource dedicated specifically to confronting and healing sibling sexual trauma and abuse (SSTA).

Link to this blog post is in the LinkTree included in my bio up above.
You can also find my website address in the image above.

#siblingsexualabuseawareness #parentchildrelationship #siblingrelationships
#familymatters

As a survivor of child sexual abuse (CSA), That wa

As a survivor of child sexual abuse (CSA),
That was intrafamilial (IFCSA--aka "incest),
And child-on-child-sexual-abuse (COCSA),
And sibling sexual trauma and abuse (SSTA),

I know how long an abuse experience can stay with a survivor.
The memory of the trauma does not fade quickly.
And for many, it will never fade.

Personally, I don't get through a day
Without thinking about my SA experience.
I don't think I'm alone in this.

Which is why survivors often get furious
When people tell them to hurry up their healing.

Be patient with the survivor(s) you love.
Ask them from time to time how they're doing.
Let them know you're there for them if they need anything.

#survivingtrauma #healingjourney #healingtakestime #survivingcsa

I have BIG feelings about the topic of Forgiveness

I have BIG feelings about the topic of
Forgiveness after child sexual abuse.

Because there are a whole lot of individuals out there
Telling CSA survivors they HAVE to forgive their abusers.
Even when there is no remorse shown or acknowledgement of wrong-doing.

Guess what?
The choice to forgive or not is up to the survivor.
This decision does not belong to the survivor’s parents, therapist, or pastor.

The survivor gets to decide if and when they extend forgiveness.
And for the record, many a survivor has healed just fine
Without extending forgiveness.
Some people “need” it.
Some people could care less.

Instead of telling a survivor what they should or shouldn’t do,
Ask them on a regular basis,
“How can I support you right now?”

Note: To read more about my personal CSA journey, pick up “Everyone Was Silent: A memoir,” available on Amazon.

#healingjourney #healingtrauma #mythbuster #thechoiceisyours

Do you know what often leads to sibling sexual tra

Do you know what often leads to sibling sexual trauma and abuse (SSTA)?

As a survivor of SSTA,
As a body safety educator in public schools,
As a child safety professional in-person and online,
I do a lot of research.

Not only that, but once my book "Everyone Was Silent: A memoir" came out,
Many people with lived experience--survivors AND parents--have told me SSTA is happening in their home.

In every situation,
These individuals shared that pornography consumption
By the child who caused harm was happening.
Often at alarming levels.
In fact, one mother said her son who caused harm confessed to viewing 8+ hours of pornography a day.

What can you do?
-Have frequent body safety conversations with all your kids
-Be sure parental controls are activated on all digital devices
-Check your children's digital activity randomly
-Read and discuss Kristen Jenson's book "Good Pictures, Bad Pictures."
Her company, @defendyoungminds, puts out great resources!
-On a weekly basis, ask your kids
1) if they need your help with anything and,
2) if anything or anyone is making them anxious or afraid
-Also, @ProtectYoungEyes is another great child safety account to follow.

#siblingsexualabuseawareness #childsafetymatters #parentchildrelationship #conversationmatters #preventionispossible

Diane Tarantini

Author of The Brave Knight
Child Safety Educator
Lover of cats, coffee, and sassy outfits

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- Everyone Was Silent
- The Brave Knight
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- Everyone Was Silent
- The Brave Knight
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