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Child Sexual Abuse

Kids’ Online Safety: My 3 top tips

Are the kids you love safe online? When it comes to keeping children safe, lack of knowledge regarding kids’ online safety equals vulnerability, in my opinion. In case you’re a little behind on this topic, I’m going to review my top three child safety tips when it comes to your kids’ online activity. Stay informed Consider

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What is a Child Advocacy Center?
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What is a Child Advocacy Center?

Do you know what a child advocacy center is? Usually referred to as a “CAC?” Taylor Shultz, Director of Awareness and Development at the Monongalia County Child Advocacy Center, provided this guest post. What is a Child Advocacy Center (CAC)? The idea of a child advocacy center–aka CAC–was created to address the distressing and often

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Child Sexual Abuse

How to become a body safety educator

How to get started as a body safety educator A young woman contacted me recently saying, “I’m really interested in body safety practices for children so they can feel empowered in their bodies. Do you have any tips for getting started in this field?” As a professional who writes and speaks to children and adults

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The (absolutely free)Child Safety Resource No One Is Talking About

Newsflash: There’s a 100% free child safety resource no one is talking about. Actually, some people are talking about it, but certainly not enough. Your child may not know about it. Heck, you may not know about it! So let’s correct this situation right now. You’ve heard me say a ton of times, when the

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The X-Factor—An exit strategy for kids

Recently I posted this reel on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn about a brilliant personal safety plan—“exit strategy,” if you prefer—for your child to utilize when they’re in a sticky situation and need a way out. Last time I looked, this 60-second reel had over 2,100 views. I’m super psyched this strategy is getting out into

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The Impacts of Child Sexual Abuse: How “The Body Keeps the Score”

How does child sexual abuse, or any trauma really, impact a person—body and soul? In his brilliant book, The Body Keeps the Score,* Bessel van der Kolk M.D. outlines the effects trauma can have on the body. According to van der Kolk, “Trauma is an event that overwhelms the central nervous system, altering the way

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Child Sexual Abuse

Am I Being Groomed for (Sexual) Abuse: 5+ signs to look out for

What does it look like when someone is plotting and planning a not-so-nice future with another individual, adult or child? I discovered the formula for abuse—relational and/or sexual—in Sandy Kirkham’s riveting memoir about her abuse experience at the hands of her youth pastor. Read on if you’re wondering: Am I being groomed for (sexual) abuse?

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Child Sexual Abuse

Consent 101: The foundation of child safety

Does your child know what consent is? If you’ve not yet discussed consent with the kids you’re raising, make sure to schedule a time to chat about it before school starts. Because really, consent is the foundation of child safety. When you explain consent to your kids, make sure they also understand body (or bodily)

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Child Sexual Abuse

Summertime Child Safety Tip #1: Spot Inspections

Does summertime child safety look different than child safety the rest of the year? Actually, it does. Which is why I’m offering up today’s child safety tip. Incidents of child sexual abuse peak at certain times. After school (ie. before parents or primary caregivers return home from work) Summertime (While parents or primary caregivers are

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Disclosing Child Sexual Abuse: What helps children tell

When I found six evidence-based recommendations on the topic of “What helps children tell,” a blog post was born! As a survivor of child sexual abuse and a body safety educator in public schools, I’ve got some things to say about each of these suggestions listed on the website of the fantastic child safety organization,

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Help Wanted: What to do if you’re living with a sexual attraction to children

Two recent events led to this blog post regarding individuals living with a sexual attraction to children. Earlier this month,  I attended a virtual lunch-and-learn on the topic of people living with a sexual attraction to children. The Moore Center for the Prevention of Child Sexual Abuse (out of the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of

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Keeping Love Alive: Info-Mini-Hack

A few weekends ago, a friend invited a group of gal-pals over to watch the virtual version of, “In Bloom: A Love and Relationships Summit.” My favorite session was with psychotherapist and relationship expert, Terri Cole, who spoke on the four A’s of keeping love alive. Or as Cole put it: cultivating lasting love. If you’re

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